AITA for hiding the fact that I inherited over $785k and a nice middle class home from my girlfriend?

If I were you, I'd take some time and really think about my relationship. Is it something you see going further? Do you plan to live with this person one day? How long have you been together? Do you know her well enough to know if she's genuinely happy, with you?

I totally get the feeling of needing to keep it to yourself. That's just some protection and you should do that because no one else is going to. But if you honestly care for and are cared for by this person, I would talk to your S/O. But before you do, think about what your plans are.

If you decide you want to be with this person, then talk to them. Start off with the house, and gauge her intent from there. Talk to her about your plans for the place and if you think about moving there one day. This would be a great time to talk about your future together and where you both see things going.

Then depending on how that conversation goes, that can help you determine if you should tell her about the money or not. As for when, I would wait a little while for that conversation.

You have an awesome plan for the money and it is very smart and responsible thinking. Maybe wait until you live together for around 6 months? That should be enough time for you to know if it's going to work or not. At that point, talk to her about it in the sense that you have an emergency fund and money for the future kids college funds that was inherited from your father.

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