AITA for saying my son can make his own choices?

It might not have been an intentional lie, but it was deeply misleading. She wasn’t making a tip-toe conditional arguement as you imply. She very much said “then I guess I am not you’re mother”. One is a merely silly argument, the latter is an outright declarative statement. “Then I guess I am not your mother” is very different to “well then I wouldn’t fit the definition of mother than would I”. She was unambiguously telling him to his face that she does not consider herself his mother. If that’s genuinely not what she meant, than it’s not OP’s job to clarify her serious miscommunication. She should be the one having a conversation and the fact that she’s gone as far as calling OP an asshole for not picking up her slack makes her purely TA.

And before someone comments, yes I know son broke the rules, that does not in any way justify any of this behaviour or indenture OP to help. Actions have consequences.

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