AITA for kicking my daughter out of the house when she turns 18? Read for full story.

NTA - old school mentality - birds kick their young out the nest too. maybe not as 'punishment' but as it's time to get out there and walk the walk or rather fly freeeeeee. I was kicked out two month's past my 18th for less in the last 80s and survived fine.

at 17 I was working and going to school. my mom, being a single mother scraping by, wanted half my paycheck or $200 in rent - this pissed me off immensely becasue in the 80s working minimum wage, i was dirt poor even with a paycheck. then again so was she. from that point on, i insisted i became a roommate and she had no control over me. This didn't sit well. At some point we got into an argument and she did her usual slap me across the mouth for my smart mouth. Instead of shrinking back, I started mocking her... OH you're such an big adult beating up on your child... gosh i can't wait till i'm an adult and can slap people around... wow that enraged her and she doubled her efforts as did i. at some point, she stopped frustratedly that she couldn't cow me down anymore. she went her way, i went mine. at some point in the evening she came back and said she couldn't do it anymore... and that i had 2 months past my 18th to find a place. I did. it wasn't great since i moved in with a family friend who had designs on me to the point he introduced me to crack (which i did 1 rock of and quit forever thinking well this is a great mess you've gotten yourself into) and i needed to move from there soon too but from there i moved into my own studio apt and started my life. my mom, was still a part of my life and was there when we needed each other. We've had arguments over the years where we didn't see each other for years but at some point, family is family so we talked it through eventually. She lived with me in my mid 20s because i got an apt with my job - she paid me rent. i jokingly demanded she tell me where she is all the time so "i would know she's safe" Now she's living with me (she's 70) and i take great care of her needs which are few and mostly tech because she's extremely mobile. She also helps around the house greatly since she says she'd have to keep an apartment clean if she lived on her own. We still have 'moments' where she's trying to control the outcome of my home but all and all it's pretty good.

She needed to kick me out for her sanity and i was obviously a know it all teen that needed to learn some lesson

I guess what i'm saying is kick her out, let her learn life, even if you 'disown her for a while' don't disown her for life. Life has a way of working things out and families do come back together stronger. I was a kicked out 18 year old and we survived and are still friends at the end of the day. She has a place in my home till i win the lottery (LOLOLOLOLOL) and then she'll have her own space on my property in a MotherInLaw type home - so she can be in control of her environment with a helping hand from us in another home on the property. until then, I will never kick her out since her quality of life would go down. Am i angry that she kicked me out at 18? nope. I had lessons to learn that weren't being taught where i was. Do i blame her that i was almost raped by that roommate or that he tried to get me addicted to crack? nope. from that time came my greatest lesson... i have will power and i can pick myself up by my bootstraps and thrive.

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