NAH. It appears she wants forgiveness, and I'm of the belief that we all deserve it. Father may have learned his lesson. This situation is ripe for a lot of immature adults to grow and become a strong family for those three children because that's what they deserve. Mistakes were made, and assholes were created, but at this point, I think the assholes have faded away and we're just left with some hurting people. I would suggest reaching back out to her. Ask her to join you in therapy. See if you can get the father in there at some point. Come up with a plan. Don't just do it for yourselves, but do it for those children who are watching your every movement right now.