I think the issue may be that Luca enjoyed banging on things, but once he started actually playing and getting lessons, he stopped enjoying it because it wasn’t just fun banging, it was hard work and something that he stopped enjoying. He probably thought that you would be disappointed in him, or that he wasn’t good enough. He thought he wanted to be a drummer, and now he’s not sure what he’s good at. Now, his sister is suddenly good at the drums that he wasn’t, and is getting attention from you for that. He had to beg for the drums for his birthday, and his sister is going to essentially get them as a gift just because. He probably feels left out.

Instead of giving Jessie Lucas drums, you should take Luca out for some one on one time, let him know that you see he’s not enjoying his birthday gift and is there something he’d want more? Tell him you’re proud of who he is and you’re not disappointed in him. This happens all the time, after all, creative people think they’ve found the right outlet and they haven’t, and that’s OK.

Ask him if Jessie can use the drum set until the next birthday/holiday, so that you can see if her interest continues to grow. If it does, tell him that at that point he will be able to decide if he wants to sell the drum set to you for Jessie or if he wants to sell it to a stranger, either way he gets the money. OR you could ask offer to buy the drum set from him outright, and look up prices since it’s used. Luca is right about the money, though, since it was his birthday gift he should be the one to be given the money from the sale. NAH