AITA for letting my toddler niece use my adult daughter's toy collection?

Oh man, this strikes such a chord for me that I'm kind of glad to see the comments because I feel like an asshole for thinking YTA, but growing up I'd often have things that were precious to me (books, toys, Yu Gi Oh cards etc) and I'd come home from school one day to find that my mother had given them away to another family or relative without asking because she assumed I was too old or didn't need something anymore.

We were poor, and hand-me-downs were very much a thing, but it kind of hurt to know that anything of mine could just disappear one day without my permission, even things I'd received as gifts or bought with my own money. As a teen it always felt like my family didn't think of me as an autonomous person or care about how important things were to me if they were just going to do whatever they wanted with my books, card collections etc and tell me I was irrational for being upset about losing something I loved but didn't -need-. This could be about the toys or the collectable value, but it could also run deeper into how your daughter feels about her value within the family, depending on how often she and her things are considered resources first.

(I also have OCD/contamination issues with people touching my things and get flustered with disturbances to my environment which might be a factor, to be fair)

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