AITA for not allowing my fiancé to legally adopt my infant daughter?

NTA, but you need to talk to a lawyer ASAP.

Right now, your fiancée has no legal rights over your daughter. That means that if, god forbid, something bad happened to you, she wouldn’t be able to make medical decisions or keep custody of the child without jumping through a whole bunch of hoops. It’s likely that your daughter would end up with a grandparent, aunt or uncle, or even in foster care. That’s a lot of trauma to put a baby through.

You say you hate custody decisions and courts and I sympathize, but imagine how much worse it would be to have to navigate all of that in a crisis, especially if you weren’t in a position to make your wishes known.

Now, that said, it doesn’t have to be a legal adoption — I totally understand being reluctant to go through that when your relationship is still a little fragile. But you should at least make sure your daughter and fiancée would be protected in an emergency.

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