AITA for not letting my gf go to a gig with someone she fucked?

Expectation/boundaries =/= controlling.

I have no idea how you’re getting so many upvotes for accusing OP of being “controlling”. By doing such a thing you’re making a problem out of something that isn’t one. Fixing problems that don’t exist are quite toxic imo, and if OP believes that he’s being controlling I don’t think that would be a healthy thing.

OP should rather learn to create, maintain, and enforce his boundaries rather than constantly being swayed by his emotions.

If anything OPs “GF” is the one that’s being manipulative, exploitative, and playing OP’s emotions. As such OP should learn to control/overcome his emotions and see what the relationship truly is. He isn’t controlling. He just doesn’t know how to express his boundaries, and how to deal with situation when someone crosses those boundaries. Instead he lets someone walk all over him, and accusations that he’s the one that’s controlling.

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