Aita for not making a big deal about my daughters coming out.

I'd say a light YTA. You say you gave her the usual response, and then went back to what you were doing.

This is essentially a once in a lifetime moment for her. She's never experienced anything like it. She's probably been scared for weeks or months to bring this up (not necessarily because of anything you've done, but even people with supportive families have unfortunately heard horror stories). For you, it was just a conversation, but she's probably had 1000 different versions of it in her head.

Acknowledge now difficult it must have been for her to come to you and tell you this. Ask her if she would like to discuss more. Stay attentive to her until she makes it clear that she's ready to be done talking about it. Give her a bit more than the usual, because it's not usual for her.

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