AITA for not paying for everything under the sun for my boyfriends birthday?

I don’t think your boyfriend the asshole. I don’t think there’s an asshole in this case until you had a conversation about how this makes you feel. If you haven’t told your boyfriend that buying him dinner and tons of presents causes a financial hardship then I don’t think his expectations are unrealistic, just not what you’re able to provide.

I know people who drop thousands of dollars on their significant other during their birthday and the holidays. But they either save up for it or they make enough money that it doesn’t really affect them. But if you haven’t told your boyfriend that you have bills to pay and you don’t have a lot of money to spend on his birthday, and I think that’s a conversation you need to have before your boyfriend it’s called an asshole.

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