AITA for not policing what my daughter says?/not making her apologise?

NTA

Oh oh, my goodness. I used to tell my mother that I worship Satan stop I purposely got kicked out of church camp by convincing other people I was going to summon demons while they slept. I was, for a while, and absolute b**** to my parents. And I have a great relationship with them as an adult, because they hold me my actions were unacceptable, I was grounded, but they never said they did love me. They never threatened to disown me. They just told me my behavior was disrespectful, not that I was a horrible person.

Am I sounds insecure. Insecure people, don't feel like they have control, seek out ways to feel Superior. At 16 she has a father who is a bigot, who might have religious views that Inspire this. But she also has a mother that quickly jumps to disowning her the moment she says something that is controversial. And I understand, as a queer woman, how much hatred can come from someone when LGBT is brought up.

You guys are making this out to be Emma issue, when this is a development and disrespect issue. Every teenager has some crazy View, they do something weird to get attention, they get into stupid arguments, and they double down. This is absolutely typical teenage Behavior.

You guys need to stop thinking that this is going to be solved by yelling at her. Or taking things away. Or making her read up on LGBT issues. What's going to change this is reworking how you talk to Emma, how she feels in regards to her mother, and her relationship with you.

I think it's great that you want to Enlighten her, but turning LGBT issues into a punishment is the wrong idea. Now she's going to associate any learning with punishment.

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