AITA for not wanting to hang out with one of my boyfriends friends?

Let’s play this out then.

You don’t go to the get-together. Friend asks bf why you didn’t come. Bf tells his dear friend the truth.

Then you go to the wedding where you meet the friend. Awkward? You betcha. What do you do in the future after you’ve met them at the wedding and There are opportunities to get together later? Do you continue to refuse? More awkward for you and the bf. What if you meet them at the wedding and like them despite their last? Won’t your initial refusal seem silly then?

It sounds like you’re refusing to associate with someone based on your principles, which, hey - do what your heart tells you. But this reminds me of the Dear Abby column where a couple moved to a new neighborhood refused to associate with the gay couple. Everyone else in the neighborhood loved the gay couple and shunned the letter writers who were shocked, SHOCKED! that there were consequences to their actions.

Just go, meet the friend, be cordial. After all, the important thing is your relationship with your bf, right? And this is obviously important to him, right?

And why do you care about the relationship between the friend and his fiancé, both of whom you’ve never met?! As long as your bf doesn’t cheat on you, what’s the big deal?

/r/AmItheAsshole Thread