AITA for not wanting a part in my child's life?

What should the mother do here? She respected the decision of the semen-donor. And she decided not to abort. (All you pro-lifers should applaud her.)

She can't satisfy the question "why doesn't he love me" with a rational answer that only adults understand. She probably tries. But even if she says "He never wanted children, but I chose to have you anyways" will neither be child friendly at this age, nor will she understand the rightfulness of wanting a childfree life -- not until she is old enough and feels the same. Which might never come because she might just want kids, thus still not understanding him.

So from the little girl's perspective, she might have some real big heartbreak and nobody but him could satisfy that.

(Also please don't say that doesn't matter. Think about going through school and seeing all the mommies and daddies and then try to grow up knowing "my dad just didn't wanna have me". It probably sucks, even if you aren't bullied for it.)

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