Right but there’s a whole reason the saying about it “taking a village” exists. I don’t feel you were minimizing my experience at all, but as someone who grew up with teen parents, who didn’t have support from their parents, it was me who suffered. Instead of everyone helping here or there, we lived in extreme poverty because who wants to hire a 17 year old with no diploma and no work experience? It’s nobody’s obligation except the parents, teen or adult, but the fact remains that if everyone involved does help, the innocent child in this situation will be FAR better off and it will set the teen parents up for easier success than a life of poverty. I’m an adult now and I spent a majority of my life watching my parents suffer. We all make mistakes but I know that long term if I had the ability to set my child up for success even after they made a mistake, I absolutely would. I don’t think this is just a small thing to think about. It has real long term effects and the child will grow up and wonder why they had to watch their parents suffer and it’s not good.