NTA. I started getting fat before I was 9. My parents tried to keep me active but they came from farming families so there was absolutely no thought to portion control or cutting out starchy foods.

I’ve been able to lose quite a bit of weight as an adult but it’s been hard, very hard. You may need to have a talk with your daughter about not comparing herself to others - the fact that she told other kids they might get fat is dangerous territory. Still, that’s the way kids act. I’m sure it was a defensive mechanism because she didn’t have the “cool” snacks.

She needs to know that she is loved no matter what but definitely keep helping her live a healthy lifestyle. The balance is tough but that’s just the way it is for people with weight problems.