Omg yes you’re the asshole and for several reasons : •I’m pretty sure there are food banks in your area you could have given the food you weren’t allowing anymore instead of throwing it. •A restrictive diet is very hard to follow and is bound to fail if it isn’t something your daughters have accepted themselves. •It is hazardous to lose weight too rapidly and a diet has to bring enough nutrients not to cause health issues which is why your daughters should be guided and checked by a nutritionist and their MD. •You act rashly and act like everyone around you should be on the same stage of acceptance of an issue as you actually are: you may have accepted that your daughters need to loose weight but they need a bit time, counseling and support to get there. •Being mean and petty won’t make your daughter give more value to your opinions but just hate you (or hate what you did/said to them and just tolerate you because blood).

TLDR: You’re the asshole OP, I’m not saying your daughters don’t need to loose some weight, what they don’t need though is a bully in their home.