AITA for refusing to lie to my niece about why she is not allowed to come skiing with me?

OOP seems unable to empathize with Amy's struggles, and what irked me a lot was when she wrote that the mothers at Ashley's school are either "cool" or absent an Amy is neither. What does it mean to be "cool" for OOP? Probably that the other mothers at that school have never had to work in their life and have babysitters taking care of everything. So they can go out and about, go skiing, have thousands of self-care routines and activities and have a life beyond being mothers. Amy can't afford this because she has gone above and beyond to provide for her kid. And is probably feeling even more pressured to give her kid more, because even her own kid sees her as "less than".

I was in one of those schools and my mother was a bit like Amy (in that she was a working mom with her own career, not the family drama). The level of entitlement is often not blatant at first, but it surfaces through time. The other mothers did have some off-sided comments and she was seen as one of the moms that sticked out for being an involved parent (which is an admirable thing to do, most of the other parents had the kids as they had bags, to show off and dress cute for family events. The bulk of parenting was done by nannies and the kids didn't respect the nannies so they had many behavioral problems later on).

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