what you need to understand is just because she identifies as a woman does not mean other people see them in the same way. I can respect your decision but I do not have to have it impact my life in that way if I do not want to. You were born a man therefore I wouldn't have slept with you back than and nothing even surgery and hormones will change how i feel. Trying to compare this to race is completely different as You are born black. This person in question was born with a dick, therefore i have no interest sleeping with them. It is not my responsibility to 100 percent accept your life choices. I will respect you for whatever you want to do, but I do not have to make those my own.