AITA for talking dirty during sex after being asked explicitly to do so?

Ha, figures.

It's silly and stereotypical, but keep chocolate on hand for after rough sex (it helps releases endorphins which cushion the "fall" from that endorphin peak)

Remember that body temperature can drop abruptly after sex--be quick to get her wrapped in a blanket. Personally, I like it when my partner just cuddles me and kisses me on my body (not my face because then I feel like I have to reciprocate). It helps me remember that he doesn't just want to hurt my body, but actually cares about its well-being.

My "drops" have been less intense over time. Like you I didn't do a lot to research aftercare beforehand, so after the first couple of "scenes", I was feeling really shitty (despite having had a great time during!) The third time I hung out with my partner was JUST an aftercare session, without any sex, just having him hold me and talk to me, because that's what I needed to re-align my sense of reality. Also, not all the sex you have has to be kinky, even if the kinky sex results in "better" orgasms--for me, it's nice to remember that my sexual value is not entirely derived from kink.

Be attentive to her needs. And remember your own! "Top drop" is real as well (though less common). Make sure that BOTH of you are getting the attention and care you need.

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