AITA for telling my boyfriend to stop saying racist remarks

YTA for A LOT OF REASONS.

Snooping is a really shitty things to do. If you're so paranoid he'll cheat on you that you need to check through his phone without him knowing, you have major issues personally and in your relationship. It sucks that you put him through that.

He also stopped saying those types of jokes to you because you asked and it made you uncomfortable, and he agreed. BUT IF HE WANTS TO JOKE TO HIS FRIENDS AND THEY ARE OK WITH IT, THAT IS FINE. You don't get to control what he says to his friends. You don't get to dictate what they find funny, and if none of his friends are offended, or share that type of humour, and they keep it to themselves, THAT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

Holy fuck. And you had the random audacity to wake him up at 2AM over something this shitty/petty? Was he not suspicious as to why you were on his phone at 2AM? Your hyper control-issues and insecurities just alerted your boyfriend to about six red flags.

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