AITA for telling my mom I think it’s disgusting she is having another kid

NTA - but let's not just blame your mom. Your dad is responsible too!

First of all, I agree with you wholeheartedly, that said - to try and understand your mom's actions isn't to condone them, but get a better idea of how you deal with the situation.

It sounds like your mom's entire purpose, since she was a young teen, is to be a mom. She knows absolutely nothing else - she's never worked, she didn't finish high school, didn't go to college. So she has missed out on pretty much all the life experiences that people go through as they become adults. And your dad seems to be no help, even though he's lived an outside life.

She's even homeschooling her kids, so they're not out there in the real world bringing home experiences, and chat, and day to day interactions that can be talked about and discussed. Your mom is living in a bubble. And it was a bubble that started at 15.

Good god, I'm 43 and I can't even imagine how horrific it would be to keep living in a bubble that I made for myself at 15! No wonder she's gotten pregnant at 46 - it looks like it's the only way she sees her life having any purpose. It doesn't matter what happens to the kids after they're babies (as you say - the older ones have to look after the younger ones). It sounds like she always needs a baby to be dependent on her, to validate her role as a mother.

I'm so sorry you've gone through this and are having to deal with it again. You're not the asshole. I think your mom and dad are beyond talking to. I would say all you can do is to support your younger siblings as best you can, whilst taking a step back.

I really, really wish you well.

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