YTA. - not bc you dont agree with abortion but bc of how you handled the situation. You should have had an in depth discussion before getting up and leaving. I feel like there is a lot more you to this that you left out.

Its important for you to understand where your wife is coming from and for your wife to understand where you are coming from Have you guys both sat down and discussed your reasoning? There's a lot more than "I don't think I can support a child right now".

1. Fiancially - yes you may be doing ok now, but theres a lot more to a baby than diapers & clothes.

2. What happens if your wife gets "morning" (all day) sickness and cant work throughout pregnancy? -Is your income enough to save up for a baby / pay bills? How's your health insurance? - -What happens if she has to go to the hospital for IV fluid / meds once a week due to the morning sickness? -What happens if your wife doesnt want to breastfeed or cant produce enough milk? Are you going to hold a resentment towards her for not breastfeeding/ "wasting money on formula"?

3. How is you and your wife's mental health?

4. Any history of depression or anxiety? -What happens if she gets PPD and can't be left alone w baby? Do you have enough support to help?

5. Were you guys struggling in your realtionship before you found out you were expecting?

6. As much as people think a baby "brings them closer", it doesn't. Every couple I know that had their first baby thinks their realtionship was strained the first year. What's going to happen when the baby wakes up for the 3rd, 4th or 5th time in the middle of the night for the 10th night in a row? Will you refuse to get up?

7. How will your realtionship survive w the lack of sex?

8. Do you normally leave when your upset? Do your disagreements usually consist of yelling? How will you handle disagreements with a baby in the house?

9. Do you have family / friends that are supportive?

10. is your wife close w her family? Do they live close?

11. Are you friends with any other couples with children or will you be the first of your friend group?

12. how is your wife's relationship with your parents? Do they get involved when you sleep over randomly like you just did?

13. do you have people willing to help when you need a break?

14. What's your living conditions now?

15. Do you rent or own? -Do you have another bedroom or need a bigger place?

There is so much more than all of that but I guarantee theres something you and your wife see differently if one of you is ready and the other is not.