AITA for telling my daughter to stop taking her marital issues out on my wife?

YTA.

I do not agree with your daughter's request, but I am sympathetic to her - much more so than I am to you.

Your daughter is hurting. You're clearly aware that she's hurting, and you're just ignoring it. Her request is out of line, yes- but this isn't really about that.

You say it isn't your place to make certain comments about her marriage, but you're using it as an excuse not to offer your daughter any emotional support at all.

She was seeking your help. No, it shouldn't come in the form of telling your wife to cover up. But you could have had a productive conversation with her. Instead, you dismissed her and made comments that probably embarrassed her.

Her husband is obviously an asshole. Her marriage is failing. You admittedly "moved on very quickly" after divorcing her mother - is it any wonder she doesn't adore your wife? - and I don't read anything here indicating concern or empathy for your daughter's well-being.

Her mistaken behavior is likely coming from a place of pain. And it probably hurts her further that you're slapping on the blinders and pretending you can't see her struggling.

She must feel so incredibly alone right now. I'd avoid everyone in that house too. What a shitty living situation for her.

It isn't your place to tell her to end her marriage, but maybe it's your place to tell her you love her and ask her if she wants to go for a walk or something.

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