NTA

I can understand feeling anger and frustration at your situation but your attitude about all fat folks needs to gain some nuance, because not everyone is in the same position. People are fat because of all kinds of reasons, and personally reading this was really upsetting, and a lot of us are traumatised because of the way we’ve been treated for being fat.

That said, I do know what you’re saying and I understand that you’re frustrated and angry at your folks for the culture they’ve created in your family. And that is valid af.

I would recommend asking your parents why they prefer to eat take out so often. If you can figure out how those habits started you might find out something new about them-or you might find that they just want to eat that stuff, and you’ll know that you’re not going to get any help from them, which sucks, but sometimes it’s good to know.

I can tell you that going on extreme diets like only eating salads and fish won’t be healthy either, and you might end up rebounding. Fish is awesome but there also isn’t anything wrong with a potato (they taste super great with just olive oil and a little salt, rather than being fried or loaded up with extras)

Perhaps you can look into the nutritional info that should be available at the restraints your parents use so that you can work out what meals might have the least empty calories and the most nutrition and vitamins in them, so that you’re prepared for the times when you have to choose something from those places, and you can feel a little more in control of what you’re being fed.

It’s really good that you’ve decided you don’t want to keep eating like that, but i’d recommend you look into ‘intuitive eating’, and eating a balanced diet; because you want to be laying foundations for a healthy life, rather than just thinking of a goalpost like ‘I want to loose all of this weight and then things will be better’. You want it to be a sustainable thing, so really the goal is living a long healthy life where you don’t just go from one extreme to another over and over again.

Good luck though, genuinely. It’s tough when our parents don’t set us up with good habits and we need to do all of the work ourselves.