AITA for telling my wife im done taking care of her dog

NTA x 2, as a fellow dog owner, your dog likely needs to be put on a feeding plan so that they are not as "full" when it is time for bed. At grandpa's house, does the dog have a large open food dish that they can nosh on throughout the day? Are snacks and such given at human meal times?

If so, quit that and starve the dog out from kibble for the period of one mealtime (less than half a day, while still providing water), then serve the exact portion of food advised for your dog's weight. When that food is gone, don't feed again until the dog's next mealtime. Schedule these events so that when you are ready to go to bed, the dog doesn't have more butt weapons loaded.

Like a kid who is wetting the bed, move dinner time earlier in the day. Hopefully the dog's grandpa can help with that a little during the day.

FWIW, I was your wife in the story at one point in my life when I had an extremely stressful job. I was not a dog person and I relied on my spouse wayyy too much, he became deeply resentful and it took him a long time to get over it. Please don't let this fester, and I hope your wife is able to hear you when you tell her the situation needs to change. It was hard for me to accept my bad acts (in dumping dog care) and equally hard for me to step up, but in the end I'm glad I got the wake up call when I did as my dog passed less than a year later (old age). I very much regret not having that dog time back, and am thankful that I was able to turn it around and rebuild my relationship with both my spouse and my dog before she passed.

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