AITA for telling my husband he knew what he was signing up for before he married me?

This happened at the beginning of my relationship with my abusive ex. He went to go visit a friend of his out of state and came back talking about how he had feelings for her but that I was the one he wanted to be with, and I was like wtf is happening? because it took me completely by surprise.

Turned out she was someone that he has gone to welding school with and lusted after, and the only reason he didn't date her was that he was with someone at the time (who was insecure about her, reasonably so) and then because his 'friend' started dating someone else. My abusive ex was mad about it because he's 'filet mignon' while the other guy was hamburger, and how could she date this other person who wasn't as good as him?

We argued over whether he lied to me over the entire multiple years of our situationship.

I'm finally over him (and his lies about this person being his 'friend') and I'm pretty sure he's moved to be with her. You know, his 'friend'.

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