NTA. This mother is so concerned about her daughter being left out of the foundation and the hair part, but wouldnt even allow her to sleepover like the other girls. I can almost guarantee that poor girls tears and frustration were brought on by that more than some foundation and a hair style. This girl was exclude from the full party by her mother as well. And as for the mother calling you racist is disgusting. You cant even get that dark of a foundation range at the dollar store or walmart, it's just not common. Not your fault! Black people are only 12 percent of our population, and you live in a white area... this isnt privilege and doesnt make anyone racist. And why would someone suggest that you leave your daughters party to go find some foundation, idiotic really. Yea, its unfortunate that she got left out of some of the events, but this kind of stuff happens. My son couldnt swim at a party because of a cast once, and guess what, I didnt complain to the parent for not accommodating my son either. My other some doesnt skateboard so sat around at a skateboard park for a friends birthday party, no one complained it wasnt catered to my child. This shit happens. At the end of the day it was your daughters party and day, no one elses.