AITA for wanting to take care of my best friend’s children after she passed away?

NAH here, OP. I'm sorry you've been put in this situation.

I'm a godparent to a few of my siblings kids, but that was before I met and married my spouse. Before we got married, one of the things we talked about was the dreaded hypothetical that no one wants to face -- a death of someone we love, and the schism of should we/should we not be a guardian to the children. It was the only thing on which we weren't completely on the same change, when we went through over a hundred questions about marriage. But I have the knowledge that if one of my siblings dies, there's a nonzero chance I'll have to make a decision that causes spouse to leave me. He will not be an ah for it, and he won't think I'm the ah for it. We'll just be heartbroken.

OP, please feel free to pm me if you need someone to talk to. I'm not going through the same thing as you, but what you're going through is just a no-right-answer hypothetical, and many people on here would be here if you need to vent. Best wishes to you and yours.

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