AITA? My husband and I are getting my stepson a car for his birthday. His mother wants to chip in and say that the car is from all of us, but I don’t want to do that.

I agree. I'm from a divorced family. The kid already knows they hate each other anyway, I'm certain.

We don't know the full story. Maybe his mother has a reason for not liking OP, maybe she doesn't. We just don't know. I do know it would be really hard to be overshadowed by your son's step mother, who is younger and a higher earner. She's probably jealous, and yes, she probably has said shitty things, but so what? Who cares? Reddit has such a hard on for reciprocal revenge. "She was mean to me so I get to be mean to her!" is such a petty, childish stance. Grow the heck up, yeesh.

This is a "Everyone Needs To Get Over Themselves", leaning towards OP maybe being assholey for putting herself ahead of just making her stepson's birthday an awesome time where everyone's getting along, and actively being the over-shadowing step parent when she knows the kid's biological Mum can't afford to compete.

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