"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." (Advice)

Indeed. I think realizing the worth of passivity and the fragility of "willing" is key. All thought and feelings we experience are coming into our awareness from our subconscious. If you constantly use your conscious energy or "will" to reject or interact with that which comes, rather than letting be, you're fighting a losing battle. I remember making that error with loneliness and other things. Engaging and interacting with the loneliness and getting lost in thought or problem-solving. Then ending up feeling zapped of my energy and if the feeling persists or returns (which it will) being overwhelmed or consumed by it and one of the last and most common safety behaviors will be to frantically try and distract or get away from it.

It's important to understand that this entire experience is brought upon by the nature of your conditioned and relentless subconscious. Given your subconscious doesn't recognize your perception of good or bad it acts entirely intention based. Whichever has been acted on more will be recognized as more important and brought into your awareness more intensely and frequently.

So I'd reckon that the key is to use your conscious energy not on competing actively with the relentlessness of your subconscious but to reinforce and strengthen the intent that you want to manifest. You can do so in many ways. It's important to define your intent and motivation behind it clearly. To be observant and impassive yet tender with that which distract you from it. And eventually your subconscious will recognize its importance and help you in valuing it more than other things and also disregarding processes that stand in the way of it.

Learning to understand this is where I'm at right now. Best of luck to you :)

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