Thanks for the reply - much appreciated.

While I've used online dating previously and had many dates/relationships as a result, I don't touch it any more. I'm totally okay that lots of people use it, but I'm not one of them. I only want to date women I've already met somewhere....work, sports/hobby club, whatever....just not via a screen.

But this here...so glad you mentioned this -

I look really young too which makes it even more frustrating because there's zero empathy.

most 27 year old women don't like 43 year old guys

...this is exactly the situation I'm in. Exactly. I'm 45, but look like I'm 30, tops. Many people think this is a blessing, but it's actually a curse. The other problem is I never see any single women...around 30-45. I see lots in their 50's onwards that are single, but around 30-45 and single? None.

What I'm trying to get feedback about is where 'solo flyers' around 30-45 actually get to meet other singles, other than online. And in particular, where women would like to see more of us guys involved. You'd think I might have some idea? Hardly.