I allow my [29M] wife's [30F] anxiety to run our marriage and life. I"m miserable, angry, and resentful; I don't know what to do about it.

I know that this will come off as harsh, but leave her. You are in a loveless relationship, you are too young to be a caretaker for the rest of your life. I have EXTREMELY bad anxiety, so I can understand her pain, however, you have to realize in life that there are going to be time where you have to socialize, awkward things will happen, and you will always worry that you said or did the wrong thing, but after time the pain gets better and you learn better coping mechanisms. No offense, but she seems like a basket case. I know you love her and want to take care of her but she is also your wife, i.e. a romantic partner. She should be fulfilling your needs as you fulfill hers. Talk to her about therapy, and if she disagrees I would say leave. You seem like a very caring and empathetic person. Please try to convince her to better herself, it seems as though she needs a reality check.

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