Why do we always have to wait

I have to wait until my grandma dies to transition, I know that sounds harsh and everything but it's true, I am adult my parents accept me and so does my sister but i live with my parents and so does my sister and grandma, it's like I don't get to have a say about my own body I mean i understand that I have to wait because my grandma is anti LGBTQ+ and my mom told me that if I started to transition right now my grandma would get upset and probably blame her and my grandma would probably move out, I just don't get how it would hurt her, because A: I am the one who is going to start T and get top surgery not her I understand I won't be my grandma's granddaughter anymore if I transitioned now and she wouldn't understand but there are older adults her age that do understand and do accept there grandchildren that are trans and would understand that they would be gaining a grandson instead of a granddaughter or the other way around, I just wish my grandma would accept me so that I can just transition already but I am not going to without her accepting me first which won't ever happen so I have to wait until she dies I feel horrible even saying that but it is what it is.

/r/TransSupport Thread