This is a great point, thank you for your insightful response. That's my problem: learning and growing is what I wanted. Still, there's not really a way to learn and grow though, just to be controversial: the people who are ghosting are ghosting for presumably shallow reasons (à la Seinfeld) and if you are authentic to yourself, there is no growing and changing. I can definitely understand there being situations where people could be adults and discuss what was lacking from their relationships, but I think that the truth I don't want to hear is that with the kind of person I have at hand, there is no mature discussion that will ever happen about why we fizzled out before we even began - and that's almost asking too much of just a Tinder match, despite the uncertainties he threw out anyway.

25 isn't as Adult as it seems, but you think he'd be better by now. I hope he figures his shit out. I am aware of a rocky relationship in his past and I think he could get a pass for being young and dumb, but soon he's gonna be 30 and either preying on young girls like a loser because he HASN'T grown and no girl his age wants to touch him with a ten foot pole, oooooorrrr he will get his shit together and be someone else's dreamboat.