Am I [26F] putting too much importance/weight on marriage with my boyfriend [33M] of 7 years?

  1. If you want to change your name, just do it. His last name isn't any more "random" than a different last name. If you want to change it, change it.

  2. If he is anti-marriage, so be it. I personally think his reasons are silly, but he doesn't have to have reasons not to want to marry anyone. HOWEVER

    He still thinks it is unnecessary and risky because things can just end at any point.

Should be a HUGE red flag for you. He doesn't want to marry you because he thinks it's a legitimate risk that you might break up some day. He's not committed to you. Again, he has the right to feel that way, but you need to decide how YOU feel about that.

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