Am I (29F) the asshole?

You said you considered it but changed your mind. Does that you agreed to go but then changed your mind after the fact? Does that mean you dithered without making a decision or committing to not going? I think both these two scenarios could be irritating to your partner. He might have to work on hire he expresses his anger—though removing himself from the situation is good strategy in my book—but if you go on trips that often than it's reasonable that you have some ground rules about when he can plan something and what's reasonable to back out of it once you commit to it. Having a feeling might not be enough. But him going on his own or with a buddy could be an option.

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