Maybe I sympathize because I recently broke up with my long term partner and he had so much stuff at my place that theres still even stuff there. I wasnt comfortable with him in my house anymore and the first few trips he tore through my room unnecessarily to look for his stuff. Certain days i couldn't deal with him. I said he can get his stuff, but only on certain days and with a friend to act as the middle party so he doesnt mess up my house. I was accused of holding his stuff hostage for wanting this. All i wanted was another person there besides us and the stuff-collecting can be really stressful or just something one doesn't want to deal with sometimes. Idk how the dynamic is with yall though...

Maybe these experiences aren't similar enough. But what was wrong with collecting the stuff sunday instead? How is it being held hostage, when you can still pick it up? It seems like both parties are being difficult. But maybe I'm misinterpreting.