Am I an idiot for agreeing to do long distance with somebody I’ve been dating for 2 months?

I met a guy (Ireland) who came here on holiday, we did a LDR for 3 years after going on a date 3 times in a month, got married last year, and it's going great now. Our marriage was a "I like you, I dont want you to leave me anymore. Let's get married," type of desicion. As peachy as it sounds, I guess the best way for you to decide is if you get an idea of what you'll go through (assuming he's not a US citizen/green card holder).

Lets say hes not a US citizen. Hell eventually have to go back. You will both only see each other realistically once or at most 3 times a year. One of you will be working when the other is over and it'll feel like theres no time. But the real pain is the night before they go and you're both trying to avoid sleeping so you dont loose time. It took a year and a half to get my husband over, $5k+. I think now it's almost 2 years. For a year he wasnt legally allowed to work. It's a lot of stress if you both continue it, but if you really do love each other, then go for it.

But let's say he is a US citizen. 6 months could be nothing. It's only a 5 hour difference. It's great if hes a night owl too. Download Skype or whatsapp for the best conversations, send care packages of how much you miss him, watch Netflix together (though his selection will be different). Wish you luck. You seem happy and it'd be a shame to back out now without every trying.

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