Am I A Bad Person For Wanting To Date Others?

If the ‘other reasons’ didn’t exist, would you still be with him if it was only the case that you wanted to have the fun experiences of being with other people?

As far as I’m concerned, my (27m) ex girlfriend (24f) broke up with me as she ‘doesn’t feel the same any more’ - that ultimately despite not saying it; she doesn’t love me. We’d been together 7 years me 19 her 17. Both one previous relationship. She hasn’t said anything to me like she would like experiences with others, but maybe she does too?

I was not interested in anyone else as I was totally IN LOVE with her consistently over the whole time we were together. If she felt she wanted to have fun experiences with others; it would have been the case she was not IN LOVE with me anyway?

Ultimately you have one life. You choose to do whatever you want to do that will make you happy. I cannot blame you, my ex, nor anyone else for wanting something different in their lives. It doesn’t make you a bad person for wanting to make your own life better.

I can tell you one thing, if you were interested in the experiences with others but you stayed with him through pity, you wouldn’t be giving as much up for the relationship as he has. It would also concern me that at some point in future there may be some element of infidelity.

To summarise, no. You’re not a bad person for wanting other things, no matter what that is. If however you were in love with him completely; you wouldn’t have felt this way.

/r/BreakUp Thread