Ultimately, this is your life. Be happy with your remaining years. Don't live a life with regret and what could be. You might've missed your shot with him, but you haven't missed your shot with someone else. Your wife deserves a man who loves every aspect of her. You deserve a man who loves every aspect of you.

It will be the hardest and most challenging thing you will ever go through. There is a lot at stake, but time heals. As long as you are open and honest, committed to still being a family, you're an amazing father and husband. But you deserve to take that chance you missed. If you do decide to come out to your family and they take it poorly, they'll come around. Just make sure you're there for them.

I wish you all the luck in the world, friend. Be yourself because that's the greatest thing you could be.