Yeah this turned into something else for me. I've been sober for a few years and I think I just got reminded slightly of when people would tell me that "you're not mentally ill, you're just a piece of shit who chooses to keep using and doesn't want to get his life together." Which is obviously never the case. So when I look at others who are addicts, criminals, abusers, for whatever reason because of my past issues, my first instinct is to feel like they're simply sick and need to be shown compassion like I was. And that's the only way to get rid of the root issue. I still believe this, but...

You're right. This wasn't the time or place for it. I understand. This is a subreddit for women to come together and discuss their experiences and traumas and seek help or just community. I should have read the room and just shut my mouth.