I am a female and I hate how fwb/hook ups make me feel after...

I'm right here with you.

I (F) had my hoe phase, casually slept around a lot, had a few actual boyfriends. But I very often felt empty during and after those hook ups.

The last FWB I had was shortly before I met my current boyfriend, and I was on the verge of falling in love with him (or at least, I wanted to fall in love with him, I respected him a lot, and he did some things in his life that many only talk about doing), but he was jaded from a previous relationship, and it was just messy. And he wasn't emotionally available, and idk if he'd have returned my feelings.

But having that experience happen so close to my current partner is very interesting. I love and feel completely loved by my partner. I could definitely go for more sex with him, but the emotional fulfillment is unlike any other experience.

I don't say this all to stick your nose in it, but I've 100% been where you are, and getting my rocks off was generally not worth the emotional emptiness I felt following any hookup.

My top 2 love languages are Quality Time and Physical Touch. It truly wears down my spirit when I only have the physical touch aspect fulfilled. I need so much more than that.

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