I'm not talking about ropes or gagging people. Never did that myself. It just seems to me that when it comes to sex, there's always someone penetrating and someone else being penetrated. Even if one isn't into BDSM it does seem like that dominant/submissive dichotomy still exists to a certain extent even if people don't acknowledge it. I was wondering if that was how people defined themselves as a bottom or a top in the gay community. You've explained me that that isn't the case. I appreciate the fact that you politely explained things to me. Again, I apologise for the silly questions I've been asking. I'm just confused about sex, especially now that I recently found myself masturbating with a dildo to gay porn.