I am going to cry

So, like everyone else is saying here, definitley continue therapy and the choice here is really between your happiness and your relationship.

Even when you have a supportive partner, things can get complicated so I'd urge you to do what is good for you, because no matter how long you've been with your partner, being dependant on them for happiness isn't a great thing. The goal I think is to be able to be happy whether or not you have a partner.

For me my wife has been very supportive of me from the begin ok and still is, but it doesn't mean everything is perfect. I'm on 6 months HRT and a little over a year ago we both stopped drinking to try and be better people because our lives was headed in the direction of being alcoholics. And also an eye opening, life threatening emergency happened that I don't really want to detail. Dysphoria didn't go away so I pursuied HRT, which I don't regret at all, but while I was questioning and just starting I was naive enough to think everything would be perfect in my relationship because my wife is supportive and she identifies as pansexual, but the honest thing is certain aspects of our lives are way better since we stopped drinking but certain aspects sometimes feel lacking (bedroom stuff), and HRT has definitely impacted parts of my personality. My wife describes that I've had a shift in energy and my mannerisms have changed, and I think she sometimes has difficulty getting used to that because I am not the same person she met and I have to give her space to figure out if she's still romantically interested in this new me or if things are more on a best friend level at this point, we've both changed a lot since we met. We are taking things a day at a time and working with a couples counselor but, the point is, even with her being super supportive and advocating for me to start HRT and cheerleading me on, things still are uncertain at times but I have to keep going with working on myself. I can't live a life to only make someone else happy and ignore my own happiness, I know for a fact I would regret that down the line.

Please continue therapy and work on yourself, even if that doesn't mean transitioning I think you will thank yourself down the line for valuing your own happiness! I know it's easier said than done but it is possible!! Take care of yourself OP!!

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