So I am interested in this INFP...(long post)

Well I can't just deny how being ignored for a week makes me feel lol. a few days I can handle but prolonged avoidance, I need to know whats going on.

ok so update I guess.

I messaged her sister on IG and she texted me shortly after. She apologized a lot.

She said sometimes she thinks it doesn't make a difference to anyone when she disappears like that, I told her it did to me, and that I missed her. So we talked about the reasons why she pushed me away.

From what I can tell she was attracted to me, and pushed me away for a lot of reasons, but basically she is protecting me from her "issues". She doesn't let a lot of people close, so she didn't want to hurt me. Cause she has a tendency to hurt the people she cares about. "believe me when I say I am protecting you"

So I told her I figured she had issues but I'd be willing to try at relationship if she would too. But I understand why she can't, so I recommended therapy to work past her issues so she can get close to someone and not resort to pushing them away, cause I think she is awesome. I'll respect her decision and leave her alone, but told her I'm always here to talk, and I thanked her for allowing us to talk about it.

She has stuff to work through that I thought she had already worked through.

I'm gonna delete this thread, but thanks for all the responses everyone.

I am very skeptical of the possibility of men and women to be just friends, especially after something like this. Maybe it is possible, but it's not for me. Especially if one of them for sure likes the other, let alone there being mutual feelings. I don't need that constantly unresolved tension in my life.

I don't really want someone who is going to pull me close just to push me away cause they haven't dealt with their stuff.

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