i am irrationally angry that i have to be a certain age or have a certain amount of children to have a hysterectomy and i have nobody around me who’s as angry about it as i am.

Okay, I totally get it. It’s ridiculous. To play devils advocate though, I’m 33 and at 21 I said I was never having children. I wanted to travel. I wanted to be the aunt. Etc etc. When I was around 25/26 I had really grown (not to say that people grow up and suddenly want children). I mean I went through quite a few different life experiences, horrible, amazing, decent in that time. I changed my views and I felt like “oh, so this is what it’s like to want to have kids someday” feeling. Not everyone feels that way. I get it. My two very very best friends are childfree and will never have kids. The people we hang out with, also childfree. Perhaps since the brain doesn’t fully mature until 25 years old (I think, don’t quote me. But I’ve heard it enough from working in the medical field and now from experience that I’ll take it?) doctors are waiting until you’re a bit older since you have no conditions to warrant such an invasive procedure. A hysterectomy is a big big one. Don’t they only do that if there’s a medical reason? Since you’re going straight to hysterectomy instead of Tubes tied or essure I think is the other one is, the dr might think not enough thought was put into it? I’m not sure. I do know that you probably are childfree for life. I don’t doubt that. This is just my personal story. They maybe waiting for you to “grow up” a bit not to sound too harsh.

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