When I was just out of high school and visiting my home town from college, my reputation took a hit from a girl falsely claiming that I tried to rape her. She hit me up when he was on vacation, came over to my house (and brought booze), got super drunk, and initiated the whole thing.
However, when her boyfriend found out, the story degraded into "He got me drunk and tried to rape me." She never took it to court or anything, but I lost a few friends from my home town as a result (including a girl who I was just starting to date) and there are probably a few people out there who think I'm a huge piece of shit for it.
Later on, I was living at home and dating a girl who I worked with at the time. I probably invested far too much in the relationship and came on a bit strong, but things were going pretty well and we were pretty sexually active. At one point, though, she decided that she was no longer interested. Instead of breaking things off like a normal person, she decided to start sleeping with my best friend at the time behind my back when I was away for the weekend. To further add to it, the night that I came back she was really cold towards me and she turned me down when I tried to make a move after we went to bed. I persisted a bit, but was in no way pushy and eventually gave up and went to sleep.
The next day, she claimed I had tried to rape her as well (luckily, very few people believed her, but again, I can't stand the fact that she probably has some friends who think I'm a scumbag to this day as a result).
Both of these girls eventually became "friends" of mine for a bit before I ended up leaving home for good (both of them apologized profusely), and in both cases they have admitted that they simply just used the rape card because of the convenience.
It's been many years since both of these incidents, but I am still genuinely terrified of the power that both of these losers wielded over me for NO reason what-so-ever. If either one had decided to bring their lie up to a court of law I would be truly fucked. To this day, I have a lingering fear every time I sleep with a girl early on in a relationship and I really don't feel safe trusting women sometimes even though I know that isn't fair at all.
The point of all of this is... that I want to thank you. I get that I have it "easy" as a white male, but I work unbelievably hard every day, do as much good as I can for others, and am a genuinely nice person. Yet, none of this seems to matter, because I am labeled an oppressive, patriarchal, rapist asshole by a group of militant, unreasonable protestors who would love to make an example of me (innocent or not).
So thank you for showing the world that there are rational people out there who are willing to fight this insanity.
That being said... Do you think that there is anything that straight, white males can do to fight these injustices? I am generally shunned and ignored in discussions about gender and sexuality (even though I have legitimate points on both sides).