I am a lesbian quasi-separatist/gynocentric radical feminist who happens to be transsexual, non-op, and married to a stripper. AMA!

Well, if you're not aware what radical feminism is and some very basic historical context there, I doubt whether you'll appreciate why it's extremely unusual and seemingly paradoxical that I align myself with that general strain of thought as a married trans woman whose spouse happens to also be a sex worker, and why that warrants an AMA. It's also difficult to describe what the opposing camps believe without sounding derisive, because obviously, I'm biased. (There was an AMA in this subreddit by a sex-positive liberal feminist early on, maybe that'd shed some light on my ideological opponents?) But I'll try my best to describe where I'm coming from:

Separatist feminism can take many forms in practice, but essentially it's what it sounds like--a type of feminist thought that promotes separation from men and the institutions that bolster patriarchy. This 'separation' can be personal (in relationships, a la political lesbianism and feminist celibacy), geographical (where separatist feminists want to create a literal physical space of all women and as free from male influence as possible), or societal (promoting women's voices and spaces within varied social contexts, creating all-female communities for feminist dialogue).

For me personally it's more personal and societal. While I often have fuzzy feelings about the concept of geographical separatism, history has shown (I think) that it would be neither tenable nor particularly desirable in practice. That's why I put "quasi-", since for most separatist feminism is associated with geographical separatism, like the women's communes of the '70s. I practice separatism in my personal relationships of all kinds--with one exception, I only have perfunctory, impersonal, fleeting relationships with men and just don't spend my time around dudes, basically. There's a definite limit to how close someone can get to me if male (male by my definition, which is a whole other explanation). I also strive to cultivate relationships with other women of a similar mentality and promote women-only spaces (in the ideological/abstract/societal sense).

Radical feminism has an infamous history, and those who profess to be radical feminists and trans women aren't known for getting along, to put it mildly. I'll leave it to you to research the history of radical feminist thought (which arose during the so-called 'second wave' of feminism, and a lot of which I really don't agree with), if you're interested, but I will answer your question from my perspective. When I say that I'm a radical feminist, I mean that I: a.) believe that patriarchy exists and is the most oppressive form of societal power impacting women today, b.) think that dismantling patriarchy should be a top political priority and take precedence over other struggles for liberation, as I think it's more fundamental, and c.) think that 'sex' (in the 'biological gender' sense of male/female binary) is a valid concept and that it matters in determining one's place in the feminist movement and society as a whole, though I think it's been poorly understood and defined by radical feminists of the past. I don't agree with their conceptualization of it as based on reproductive organs and genitalia at all, but neither do I think it's completely self-defined and exceeding two categories (like a lot of third-wave feminists love to emphasize).

That's the basics. 'Gynocentric' is described in the above edit of my original reply. Hopefully that makes more sense?

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