Your feelings are your feelings and are therefore valid and worth consideration.

If you're uncomfortable about this for the reasons you mentioned, then I think it's a fair conversation.

I would definitely spend more time understanding exactly all the reasons it upsets you - all the thoughts, fears and feelings that are coming up because that can make a more productive conversation when you really understand the root issues.

Him saying he has no control over the situation is a cop out in my opinion. He does have control. It just may mean doing something he doesn't want to or doing something that would upset the group. But hes the groom, so he gets to.

He could set boundaries. And if he knows his guys enough to suspect they might take him to a strip club, he could skip the whole event.

That seems a bit extreme, but what I'm trying to say is that he has control. More than maybe he realizes. But yea, he could put his foot down.

You could also set up some rules for going out - like a time to be home with maybe a combo (bachelor/ Bachelorette) after party, and maybe a rule that if he ends up at a strip club, he must text you to let you know. Transparency is usually more important in situations like these. Whatever you want the rules to be.... the goal is setting up rules that will make you feel more secure about the situation.

One of the things that concerns me is that - based on what you've described - it seems like he's not really listening to you or giving your feelings real consideration. I say that because rather than finding solutions to help put you at ease, the not having control comment seems like he's just brushing it off.

And I guess as you enter marriage, real communication and consideration and partnership is very important.

One last thing I'll add is that I don't think you're overreacting. And I think if you hold back your pain, you'll accumulate resentment. So keep talking about it.