Am I sex obsessed?

You’re not sex obsessed, you guys just haven’t been together long enough to know if your drives are long-term compatible and you’re learning the answer is probably ‘no.’ Plus she has a baby that is probably taking all her energy - sex typically pretty much vanishes for the first three years after a baby being born just because there are so many changes, both in the relationship and to the woman’s body.

A long-term relationship will go through lulls, you two will have to learn to navigate them if you want to be successful. The typical advice given to the man when his partner is uninterested in sex after a newborn if to make sure he is taking on his share of housework and childcare, and to lower his expectations for a while.

If you are still wanting to go about sex like it’s the early stages of the relationship while she is sleep-deprived and trying to care for a young baby, I’d say that’s likely unreasonable and probably unworkable. You’re going to have to meet in the middle - which ultimately will be less sex than you want.

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